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Spring Equinox 2024…

a wee dram with the piper at Burns Night dinner…and following the traditional engagement season of Christmas to Valentine’s Day I have received several promising enquiries for an MC/Toastmaster. We are well into the wedding fair season, and I have enjoyed meeting  many delightful couples in lovely wedding venues in London and the Home Counties.

Burns Night supper at Halsey Hall Masonic Centre in Waltham Abbey, and I was asked to deliver the Selkirk grace and address to the haggis. I replied, “Only if I can take a wee dram with Piper Donald McGrurie”. Later in the evening I delivered a learned paper ‘Dux magnus gentis venteris saginati (which translates literally as ‘great chieftain o’ the puddin’ race), describing the life cycle of the wild haggis that inhabits the highlands of Scotland.

Once again delighted to be invited to serve as Master of Ceremonies for the National Association of Wedding Professionals spring networking event at Home House, a private members’ club in Portman Square in London. Delighted also to introduce NAWP director and guest speaker Tracy Butterfield of Saltaire Bridal, who spoke on neurodiversity awareness in the wedding industry. Many wedding suppliers attended the event and helped to make for an enjoyable evening, and a special mention for Photographer Pascal Gastaud, Sky Magic and Badge Master Mick.  More blogs…

Guest Blog…

Band stand at BrightonIn the excitement of planning, it’s easy to overlook the negative impact weddings can have on the environment. To raise awareness and promote circularity, 77 Diamonds created an in-depth guide on planning an eco-friendly, zero-waste celebration. In this guide, readers will learn about:
Carbon footprint: The environmental impact of nuptials and the biggest sustainability culprits.
Planning a green wedding: Practical tips on budgeting, selecting eco-conscious suppliers, and utilising sustainable resources.
Celebrating love and the planet: How your celebration can support environmental nonprofits.
Read the guide here: https://www.77diamonds.com/sustainable-weddings

Special Touches…

Occasionally I come across something that is a little different; these are the special touches that can make your special day just that – special.

Traditional Wedding Speeches

How to make a confident and memorable wedding speechTraditionally, there are three speeches at a standard English wedding: father of the bride, the bridegroom, and finally the best man, in that order. Other speeches can be slotted in as required, for example, the father of the bridegroom would follow the father of the bride, and the bride herself would follow the bridegroom (so that she has the last word!).
When delivering your speech, talk more slowly than you would normally. Also, take longer pauses between sentences, giving the guests time to laugh or wipe away a tear before you start in on the next sentence. Avoid pauses mid-sentence, and if you cannot tell jokes, do not tell jokes! The five S’s of starting a speech: Stand, Smile, Scan the room, wait for Silence, take a deep breath and then – and only then – Speak. The Fifteen Peas of Public Speaking (by Graham Le-Gall, Wedding Speech Coach) will help you create and deliver the perfect wedding speech; visit www.theweddingspeechcoach.com/15-peas/

Breaking the Glass

Breaking wine glass at a Jewish weddingIt is a tradition at Jewish weddings that the bridegroom breaks a wine glass under his foot towards the end of the wedding ceremony to shouts of ‘Mazal Tov’ from the guests. We are told that this commemorates the destruction of the Temple in Jerusalem over 2,000 years ago, and that we should remember the sad times when celebrating joyful occasions. My Rabbi told me that it was the last time I get to put my foot down!
Eva Edery creates bespoke Judaica and wall art pieces with the shards of the chuppah glass, fusing them into customised pieces including mezuzot. Art created with broken chuppah glass shards is a celebration of a memorable event during the Jewish wedding ceremony, and Eva’s Mediterranean heritage influences the vibrancy of colours, hues and shapes found in her designs.  Visit www.chuppahglassart.com for further information.

Changing Names

A question most brides will ask is “Will I adopt my husband’s name after we are married?”, and in most cases the answer is “Yes”. However, there are several alternatives open to both brides and bridegrooms, including concatenating the two surnames (with or without a hyphen) and meshing the two surnames to create a new name. It is not unusual, also, for same-sex couples to adopt their partner’s name or even create a brand-new name.
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A Different Photobooth Experience

East London Photobooth is the ultimate portable booth experience; the perfect setup to capture any occasion – from weddings to festivals to conferences! Hi-res photos, videos, GIFs and boomerangs can be captured and shared instantly to your device via text, email, airdrop and QR code.
The Girls Club writes: ‘We absolutely loved Charlie and so did all the guests, we also loved the booth itself as it’s unique and not like any we’ve used before. The designs, demeaner and overall vibe were the most professional of any we’ve worked with so thank you so much for this.” Visit www.eastlondonphotobooth.com/ for further information.

John Ashmele FGPT
Fellow of the Guild of Professional Toastmasters
Graduate of the Professional Toastmasters’ Academy
m: 07710 400412       e: john@ashmele.co.uk